Is this a dangerous situation for a 16 year old, if parents can please answer?

The reason why I ask if parents can answer is because my parents trust me with almost anything and are for my experimentation. I dont know who else could give me advice?





Im 16 and I tested out of high school to start college early. At the community college I go to there are guys asking me out but theyre all 20. I feel mature for my age so I go out with them.

There are these two guys who are both friends and both asking me out at the same time. One of them is more intellectual and the other is more female hungry.

Im more attracted to the intellectual but its hard for us to hang out because he doesnt have a car. Last night I hung out with the other friend to study. I really thought we were going to study, a very naive mistake on my part. We talked and when I wanted him to drive me home he wanted to get high intead. When we got high he wanted to me to smoke so much! The hits he took werent big. Then he kept telling me I was beautiful and how I could be a model and how cute I was.

I asked him to drive me home and he still avoided the request.



I then told him I wasnt attracted to him and that the only reason why we were hanging out was because I liked his mind and what he had to say. I made it clear it wasn't a date. He agreed and told me I better not tell people we went on a date.



So I called my parent and he got freaked out that my parents wanted to know where I was.



When I left he told me I could talk to him and his other friend (the intellectual) about anything and to just come to them when I feel bad or need anything, even a grade change from a professor.

I didnt understand why he would want me to contact his friend in addition to himself?



This past weekend the two of them wanted me to hang out with them alone. Something I was very skeptical about.



I feel like theyre both trying to get intimate with me because Im 16 and probably easy to manipulate and trick.

The reason why I wanted to talk to them is because theyre intelligent and stimluate my mind, but now I feel a bit strange.

Ive heard storries before young teen girls going out with older guys, never comming back home.



I hope this was enough information. Im just VERY concerned about my safety right now. Am I making moves that are too risky? Do you think I should continue to be friends with these guys? Would you think their motives to be sincere?



Ive always been pretty care free but I felt like I was in a potentially very dangerous situation yesterday.



Whoever did read this thanks so much!!!!









Oh and I know I shouldnt be getting high. Its just a way for me to relax, but Im not going to anymore. It slows my mind and makes me paranoid.Is this a dangerous situation for a 16 year old, if parents can please answer?
Trust your instincts.



At the point you asked to go home and he didn't take you, that's the glaring red flag that says it's time to go.



No matter your age it is difficult to find good intellectual stimulation. It's a problem you'll have all your life. While the internet is full of dolts it is also full of smart folks. Doesn't help personalize a relationship and doesn't replace a real life egg head of your very own but it is an outlet.Is this a dangerous situation for a 16 year old, if parents can please answer?
Wow hunny, I feel sorry for you. I'm sorry to tell you this, but I think they're using you. ):

I think you should stay away from these boys; at least that's what I'd do.

Giving up drugs is a good decision.



Good luck + hope I helped

-Jaffa x
I would be worried, College boys get drunk a lot, and some will try or will rape you, and if you fight and things get out of hand they might get violent and accidently or not hurt or kill you. Then again, maybe I watch and read too much News stories on that stuff. Also...Lifetime movies.... but most of those are based on true stories...
Major points that I have stressed with my 19 year old daughter.

1) always take someone whom you know along.

2) always tell someone where you are going, and call/text them even if there is a change in plans.

3) know the basic self-defense moves if someone intends to harm you.



Please take care of yourself.
First of all, if you really don't know them, you shouldn't be alone with them, especially two of them that want to get you high. Thats a dangerous situation. There's one of you and two of them, NOT SMART! If you do decide to go out with them, make sure you tell someone whether its a parent or some other adult. Have a cell phone and make sure u have service. Make it clear to an adult how long you will be gone and when you will be back in case something happens. Make sure you don't lie about what you are doing or who you are with. Make sure you give address of location, and any information you can about these boys to an adult. be careful.
Yes, you should be concerned and yes, getting high can make you paranoid.



People who survive rape and failed homicide attempts almost always say, ';I just had this nagging feeling...'; Not trusting your insticts is always a mistake. I see no reason to think these guys are planning anything that is appropriate. Telling you to ';come to them'; with all your issues sounds like a way to issolate you from your other peers and parents. I wouldn't take them up on that offer. I also wouldn't agree to be alone with either of them, much less both of them at once.



You have interestingly keen insight for 16. A lot of times, kids with your level of intellect are lacking in the emotional maturity department. Sounds like you are blessed with both. Your parents must be so very proud of you!



You may have trouble finding a boy in your age group that will be as well educated or even as smart as you. But at least you will be on a level playing field, with regard to life experience. Besides, these guys don't sound like they are really in your league. Dump them. They are trying to manipulate you. Real friends would never make you that uncomfortable.



Kerrie Wheeler, LCPC
If you are concerned for your safety, then stay away from these men. At the least, don't go anywhere with them alone, especially if you feel uncomfortable.
Trust your gut. If you feel uncomfortable, get out.
You sound like a really smart girl. Listen to your gut it will never ever tell you wrong. I think your gut is telling you that something could happen and you shouldn't take it lightly. I wouldn't hangout with either one of them alone.



A good friend of mine actually was seeing a guy when we were in highschool we were only 15 at the time. She met a guy that was 19 and she went off with him and his friend. That night his friend held your arms with the other one raped her.



I'm not telling you this to scare you, just to let you know that even the nicest people can do bad things.



If you ever need someone to talk to or any good girl advice...add me as a contact and feel free to email me anytime.
I would ask your parents. They might yell but its better that they know. Plus, parents give the best advice. i would stay away from them until you tell your parents.
I'm not a parent but may I still answer?? I'm a teenager by the way. I think that you should just not hang out with them. Maybe in the library or something where there are more people.
When I read this, I felt really bad for you. I had a similar situation a year ago with two older men. Just ignore them, if they give you the creeps. Trust your human instincts.
i say stop seeing them and drugs are good to quit
Listen to yourself and trust yourself. You know that you are getting bad vibes from these guys. I feel that you are being set up to be taken advantage of. Especially, since the guy is trying to get you high where you are not entirely of your own mind. Stay away from them.
First, I would like to say that congrats on getting into college at 16! you're parents must be very proud of you! I know I would.



secondly,

if you get the feeling that something isn't right, GO WITH THAT FEELING!!!!! there is nothing more true than your intution. and if something is too good to be true,then it is.

'These are not opinions but the trurh!!!(and also expererince as well)

If i were in your shoes, I would stay away from these guys. It sounds like they are up to no good whatsoever and tell them to fall back adn if you wanted to get laid you would ask for it? so find some people that will respect you and not try to talk you out of your underwear!

if you do find someone worth it to get intimate with,

use protection!!!!! make sure he will put on a condom ok?

you could get something you may have for the rest of your life!!!

and also you don't need a baby either.

Please know that you are very special and do all you can to do the right thing!

ok stay away from that scum!!!!!

take care

and good luck in your future
They aren't people I would trust without a clear head. The smoking with them is a bit dangerous. You need to have your wits about you when you go around those people. They don't sound too dangerous, but they do sound like they would take advantage of you if they got a good chance at it.
next time save the joint and mail it to me