Well, I tried making copies of my report card, to change my grades so that when my dad see's them, he won't see the two F's I got. I ended up getting caught making copies in the library (but I asked the teacher and she said yes, but i guess she misinterpreted) and I got a detention. She noticed I changed my F in her class and she said she would be informing my parent.
So I went to a store, and made copies changing the F's to C's and gave my dad my report card. But mind you, I got a report card from my guidence counselor, but the ones she prints from her computer looks completely different from my normal report cards we get sent to the house.
I gave my dad the report card, and he noticed it looked different. He said he was going to call the school up to see about it. I'm sort of scared that he'll find out. And also, I have no idea when the teacher will call my Dad, so what do you think I should do? Please don't tell me to tell him the truth, because that's not an option. Lol.Did something wrong, don't know how or what to do.?
If telling the truth is not an option in your world...you deserve everything that happens to you...
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
What would you do in this situation?
I want to give my instructor a gift (german chocolate) as thanks for helping me during office hours in the past weeks. In a week, he'd sit down with me 3x for an hour to go over material and was always there to help me.
I need at least an 80 on the final exam (this friday) to get a C (and I need this grade for a particular reason) which he knows because i told him.
Now I need to know what's appropriate- on the one hand I want to show him how much I appreciate his help with everything, but if I give him the gift on friday, the last day of exams and the day I'm leaving for home, it's before the grades are released and I don't want him to feel pressured to change the grade if I don't get an 80 (which I will.... :P) (under so much stress right now..) BUT anyway... what would you do in this situation?
also, he is not american. he's from romania. if that has any influence.
thanks!!What would you do in this situation?
I would give him a thank you note now, and when classes start up again, and grades have been noted, give him the german chocolates...
I need at least an 80 on the final exam (this friday) to get a C (and I need this grade for a particular reason) which he knows because i told him.
Now I need to know what's appropriate- on the one hand I want to show him how much I appreciate his help with everything, but if I give him the gift on friday, the last day of exams and the day I'm leaving for home, it's before the grades are released and I don't want him to feel pressured to change the grade if I don't get an 80 (which I will.... :P) (under so much stress right now..) BUT anyway... what would you do in this situation?
also, he is not american. he's from romania. if that has any influence.
thanks!!What would you do in this situation?
I would give him a thank you note now, and when classes start up again, and grades have been noted, give him the german chocolates...
Feelings of inaduqatsy and self-hatred.. how do i start dealing with this more properly?
i'm turning 15 in july
I'm in 9th grade.
Over the past two years i've been dealing with a lot of problems
It's devloped into cutting and anorexia.
I hate myself. Everything i do it feels like its wrong. I KNOW doing well is improtant but the fact that i have a B in three classes and a C in one, A's in the rest, really bothers me.
I can't bring the grades, up, it's too late in the year [even if i got straight As in everything from now till june, i'd still not be able to change my grade]
i'm worthless
EVerything that i do seems to be wrong!
I don't know how to cope with this properly anymore
The cutting is only going to get worse, and it's almost summer. i won't be able to cover up as much as i'd prefer
And the way i eat.. is gonna get worse..
I struggle to eat two meals a day.. and i never eat a lot at either, except for when i end up binging..
I don't know how to cope
I want to start recovering from all this.
it's been this way too long.
[hitting the more obvious questions now]
~No, my mom doeesn't know.. or rather doesn't care. she has seen the cuts and noticed my weight fluctuations, but hasn't tried to confront me or help.
~yes,one person knows most of this
she also lives in canda... :((Feelings of inaduqatsy and self-hatred.. how do i start dealing with this more properly?
So sorry to hear of your troubles. First of all, you need to find someone who you can confide in, neighbor, priest, rabbi, minister,school councilor
You also need to get to a doctor. Have some blood work done to see if you are diabetic or have a chemical imbalance.
Not knowing if you have religion or not, but pray. God, not matter your religion, will always be there waiting for you to ask for help.
Some of what you are going thru might be hormones so it is really important for you to get medical help. Don't be afraid to seek help. Doctors have seen it all and don't take no for an answer. There is something that needs fixing, either physically or mentally. The sooner you get the help you need the better your life will be. No matter what you think of yourself, you are a worthwhile person..
Don't give up in seeking your answers.
Good luck
I'm in 9th grade.
Over the past two years i've been dealing with a lot of problems
It's devloped into cutting and anorexia.
I hate myself. Everything i do it feels like its wrong. I KNOW doing well is improtant but the fact that i have a B in three classes and a C in one, A's in the rest, really bothers me.
I can't bring the grades, up, it's too late in the year [even if i got straight As in everything from now till june, i'd still not be able to change my grade]
i'm worthless
EVerything that i do seems to be wrong!
I don't know how to cope with this properly anymore
The cutting is only going to get worse, and it's almost summer. i won't be able to cover up as much as i'd prefer
And the way i eat.. is gonna get worse..
I struggle to eat two meals a day.. and i never eat a lot at either, except for when i end up binging..
I don't know how to cope
I want to start recovering from all this.
it's been this way too long.
[hitting the more obvious questions now]
~No, my mom doeesn't know.. or rather doesn't care. she has seen the cuts and noticed my weight fluctuations, but hasn't tried to confront me or help.
~yes,one person knows most of this
she also lives in canda... :((Feelings of inaduqatsy and self-hatred.. how do i start dealing with this more properly?
So sorry to hear of your troubles. First of all, you need to find someone who you can confide in, neighbor, priest, rabbi, minister,school councilor
You also need to get to a doctor. Have some blood work done to see if you are diabetic or have a chemical imbalance.
Not knowing if you have religion or not, but pray. God, not matter your religion, will always be there waiting for you to ask for help.
Some of what you are going thru might be hormones so it is really important for you to get medical help. Don't be afraid to seek help. Doctors have seen it all and don't take no for an answer. There is something that needs fixing, either physically or mentally. The sooner you get the help you need the better your life will be. No matter what you think of yourself, you are a worthwhile person..
Don't give up in seeking your answers.
Good luck
In this situation what would you do?
Supose you are the dad. The 16 year old son comes to you with the report card and tells you he modified some grades and feels really guilty now so he wanted to confess. The report card as it was in original was bad. Would you punish the kid only for the bad report and how? Would you punish the kid for the bad report and for changing the grades with the intention to lie to you and how? Would you give some credit for confesing the truth , if yes in what way?
(Im the kid tourmented by guilt feelings and wanting to confess )In this situation what would you do?
The rule in my house when my son was in high school was: yes you will be punished for doing something bad, but lie to me and the punishment will be to the moon. Confessing is telling the truth, although not right away. I would punish you for changing the grades, but not for coming clean.
If you changed the grades the punishment would probably be not going out, tv, etc. until all your homework is done. Plus, we would probably go have a talk with your teachers to see what could be done to raise your grades, extra credit, etc.
Remember, your parents want you to succeed. They will do almost anything to help you get the grades they know you can get and to make sure that your a success in your life. I know you don't want the punishment, but if you get caught before you tell Dad I can promise you the sky will fall on your head.In this situation what would you do?
i guess i would be glad my kid came and said something because then i could help with the grades. no punishment. after all i did that all the time
if the kid confessed i would leave that pert of it out. you were told before the damage was done or any lies told. it must have taken courage to own up straight away. i would only ';punish'; for the report card, but i don't really know what you mean by that. if my kid was trying their best and still not getting good grades i wouldn't punish them at all. you can't FORCE someone to be ';clever';. if i knew they were lazy and capable of more i would think of a suitable punishment for that.
First you would catch it for the bad grades because consistent punishment is a key to making rules that will be obeyed. Now confessing would definitely make me consider knocking some punishment off because I value honesty above all else.
I would give you some credit for finally telling me the truth but I don't like being lied to by my children so I would probably find out the reason behind the bad grades. Is it because you didn't study or are you having trouble understanding the work? I think your punishment should be based on the answer to that question. If you are having trouble understanding the work your parents won't know that unless you confide in them. If it is due to your not doing your part to study I would ground you until you brought the grades up. Your parents will respect you alot more if you are honest with them.
Dear Rebel - well....getting bad grades in school is not good...don't know how your parents typically handle that....but don't expect to get off easy! And doctoring your grades is worthy of some grounding Mr.! You have to accept the result of your actions - you won't die if you confess - and although what you did was wrong and you are scared to do what's right....hopefully you have learned your lesson. Take your punishment like a 16 year old!
As a parent to a 18 year old, the rule in our house is absolutely no lying.
We don't care how bad the situation, just tell us the truth and we would go from there.
Yes, he has lied and was grounded for that situation.
You should tell him now before he finds out from someone else. Every parent is different with rules and punishments.
Just be honest, we parents really aren't the bad guys, we love our children and just try to do our very best for them.
Let me tell you how I dealt with a similar situation. I am a father of a 17 yr old girl. In my profession I am in fairly constant contact with the police force so, when my daughter then aged TEN years old forged my signature on a school related document I took her to the local police station and asked the Sargent to show us one of the cells. It had the right effect. She continued to be a straight A student and God willing she will enter university for a maths degree Sept 2007. If kid makes an error that normally only adults commit, then treat kid like an adult and the ensuing shock normally works wonders. The offender's remorse and repentance often aren't enough. You need to REPAIR any damage or hurt that your CRIME has caused. I believe that peer pressure is a serious obstacle for parents to contend with but in my view the only way to take on the ';peer pressure'; your kids are under is ';parents... pressure';. Parents complacency kills kids and their future.
Coming clean for something I didn't know about would absolve the person of any punishment for it, however I would still punish the person for the grades although less severely than if I had found out. It all depends on what your parents are like.
I feel you are showing some maturity and remorse for your actions. If this was a first time at this I would definatly only punish for the first grades and warn about attempted dishonesty and how lying and being dishonest is not a path to choose for a better life in adulthoodie tab structuretoptr
(Im the kid tourmented by guilt feelings and wanting to confess )In this situation what would you do?
The rule in my house when my son was in high school was: yes you will be punished for doing something bad, but lie to me and the punishment will be to the moon. Confessing is telling the truth, although not right away. I would punish you for changing the grades, but not for coming clean.
If you changed the grades the punishment would probably be not going out, tv, etc. until all your homework is done. Plus, we would probably go have a talk with your teachers to see what could be done to raise your grades, extra credit, etc.
Remember, your parents want you to succeed. They will do almost anything to help you get the grades they know you can get and to make sure that your a success in your life. I know you don't want the punishment, but if you get caught before you tell Dad I can promise you the sky will fall on your head.In this situation what would you do?
i guess i would be glad my kid came and said something because then i could help with the grades. no punishment. after all i did that all the time
if the kid confessed i would leave that pert of it out. you were told before the damage was done or any lies told. it must have taken courage to own up straight away. i would only ';punish'; for the report card, but i don't really know what you mean by that. if my kid was trying their best and still not getting good grades i wouldn't punish them at all. you can't FORCE someone to be ';clever';. if i knew they were lazy and capable of more i would think of a suitable punishment for that.
First you would catch it for the bad grades because consistent punishment is a key to making rules that will be obeyed. Now confessing would definitely make me consider knocking some punishment off because I value honesty above all else.
I would give you some credit for finally telling me the truth but I don't like being lied to by my children so I would probably find out the reason behind the bad grades. Is it because you didn't study or are you having trouble understanding the work? I think your punishment should be based on the answer to that question. If you are having trouble understanding the work your parents won't know that unless you confide in them. If it is due to your not doing your part to study I would ground you until you brought the grades up. Your parents will respect you alot more if you are honest with them.
Dear Rebel - well....getting bad grades in school is not good...don't know how your parents typically handle that....but don't expect to get off easy! And doctoring your grades is worthy of some grounding Mr.! You have to accept the result of your actions - you won't die if you confess - and although what you did was wrong and you are scared to do what's right....hopefully you have learned your lesson. Take your punishment like a 16 year old!
As a parent to a 18 year old, the rule in our house is absolutely no lying.
We don't care how bad the situation, just tell us the truth and we would go from there.
Yes, he has lied and was grounded for that situation.
You should tell him now before he finds out from someone else. Every parent is different with rules and punishments.
Just be honest, we parents really aren't the bad guys, we love our children and just try to do our very best for them.
Let me tell you how I dealt with a similar situation. I am a father of a 17 yr old girl. In my profession I am in fairly constant contact with the police force so, when my daughter then aged TEN years old forged my signature on a school related document I took her to the local police station and asked the Sargent to show us one of the cells. It had the right effect. She continued to be a straight A student and God willing she will enter university for a maths degree Sept 2007. If kid makes an error that normally only adults commit, then treat kid like an adult and the ensuing shock normally works wonders. The offender's remorse and repentance often aren't enough. You need to REPAIR any damage or hurt that your CRIME has caused. I believe that peer pressure is a serious obstacle for parents to contend with but in my view the only way to take on the ';peer pressure'; your kids are under is ';parents... pressure';. Parents complacency kills kids and their future.
Coming clean for something I didn't know about would absolve the person of any punishment for it, however I would still punish the person for the grades although less severely than if I had found out. It all depends on what your parents are like.
I feel you are showing some maturity and remorse for your actions. If this was a first time at this I would definatly only punish for the first grades and warn about attempted dishonesty and how lying and being dishonest is not a path to choose for a better life in adulthood
Teachers: How can I earn a second chance?
I've been stressing out about my grades in an AP class. I've been getting B's on most of my tests and quizzes for half a marking period. However, I must get an A. My parents require me to do so and would surely kill me if I do not. I got an A the first marking period, but for the second (which is not), I did not do as well.
The sad thing is I've been stressing about this everyday of my break (including New Year's). I realize that partly it's my fault, because I've been cramming. But my resolve is to change and truly work hard on everything. I promise for sure.
But the problem is... I only have one more month (half a marking period) to change my grades. Even if I do work hard and get a perfect score on everything, I won't make it to a solid A.
Is there anything I can do or talk about to my teacher to give more opportunities (or tests)?
I realize there are not many assignments left, but I need more to get the A. There are no extra credit assignments. This is an AP course.
Teachers: If I do show that I care and if she truly realizes I have worked harder, will she give me a chance by offering more assignments or even extra credit?
*I realize it is my job to work and I'm willing to do so. All I'm asking here is more opportunities and a chance. I am NOT trying to bribe the teacher or do anything wrong.
Please... I'm miserable now and desperately need it ;(Teachers: How can I earn a second chance?
Honestly, I doubt there will be anything a teacher will do to help you with your grades if you weren't doing the work as well as you should have the first part of the semester. Part of school is teaching the students that there are consequences for their actions (or in your case, inactions).
But this is something you need to bring up with your parents. Bs aren't the end of the world. I mean, a C is average. Just tell them the truth but that you're determined to work harder next quarter. They might actually let you off a little easier because you were honest with them.
The sad thing is I've been stressing about this everyday of my break (including New Year's). I realize that partly it's my fault, because I've been cramming. But my resolve is to change and truly work hard on everything. I promise for sure.
But the problem is... I only have one more month (half a marking period) to change my grades. Even if I do work hard and get a perfect score on everything, I won't make it to a solid A.
Is there anything I can do or talk about to my teacher to give more opportunities (or tests)?
I realize there are not many assignments left, but I need more to get the A. There are no extra credit assignments. This is an AP course.
Teachers: If I do show that I care and if she truly realizes I have worked harder, will she give me a chance by offering more assignments or even extra credit?
*I realize it is my job to work and I'm willing to do so. All I'm asking here is more opportunities and a chance. I am NOT trying to bribe the teacher or do anything wrong.
Please... I'm miserable now and desperately need it ;(Teachers: How can I earn a second chance?
Honestly, I doubt there will be anything a teacher will do to help you with your grades if you weren't doing the work as well as you should have the first part of the semester. Part of school is teaching the students that there are consequences for their actions (or in your case, inactions).
But this is something you need to bring up with your parents. Bs aren't the end of the world. I mean, a C is average. Just tell them the truth but that you're determined to work harder next quarter. They might actually let you off a little easier because you were honest with them.
Teens/Adolescent help? How to deal with the stress?? (is this normal for stress?)?
Where to start....ok, I'll start with (and only mention) what made me lose it tonight. I suck at math this year, so I've signed on for an online tutor. This hasn't been helping, and I feel really guilty because: 1. I need good grades for any hope of passing the SSATs and getting a scholorship for a private high school and 2. I feel really guilty that I'm doing bad because money has to be wasted for somethng that I cannot understand! I had problems with my homework (even with the tutor) and my brother said I was being bitchy and there were less than 10 minutes left in our session and we had done basically nothing! I said that I gave up and locked myself in my room because I feel so bad that I can't get this or change my grades (they just keep getting worse! I actually got an ';F'; on last week's quiz). My coach (sports coach/program helps us with school) says ';public school isn't an option'; when I told her I was considering public school (what if I don't get financial aid? Or if I tank the SSATs?) because it's too much stress- and I told her that just before she told me to continue for private school!
What really scares me is that I was in the bathroom a few minutes (15?) later and looked in the mirror and started shaking and was on the verge of tears (I actually did cry while locked in my room) thinking I won't be able to change.
I'm being pressured to do so many things right now and so much is expected from me that I don't know and actually think it's going to lead to be breaking down! (Not just doing good at math. I also have to study packets for SSATs, have an interview on Monday, project due that day, I currently have friend issues, and more...)
Please, have any of you experienced anything at all like this? How did you help solve it? I don't want to end up too pressured from this or have this lead to too much.Teens/Adolescent help? How to deal with the stress?? (is this normal for stress?)?
Okay.............YOU'RE pressurizing yourself. Nobody can make you feel pressure but you!!! So..............let it go!!! Go outside and scream, run around the block, yell into a pillow, write some stuff into a journal, do some exercises, dance, attend a concert.
You have to let some pressure off or you're going get high blood pressure, health problems happening, headaches, etc.
Your whole life is going to have stressors in it. Everything you do from getting a job, to having a child, to paying bills, to attending universities, to having a boyfriend/husband, having mechanical problems in the house (furnace, stove, washing machine). Start learning to manage the stress now. The most important thing is to exersize. That helps release the endorphins in the body which create many health issues inside of you.
Remember, YOU are the only one creating stress. There really isn't such thing as stress actually. It's just something you think you should have...worry!!! You don't need to worry. you try your best, you work hard, it will all work out for you.
Good luckTeens/Adolescent help? How to deal with the stress?? (is this normal for stress?)?
I am going through what you are going through right now. Except my SATs are next year, but I have club meetings, babysitting, and a gazillion pounds of homework to do. Especially AP World History, cause that class is soo frikking hard and my mom wants me to get at least a B in that class which I do right now, but it's close to a C and it's driving me insane. Sometimes, it feels like the day isn't even enough.
What to do? Well that's what I am trying to figure out too. I try to keep distractions away like Facebook or MySpace but sometimes that's hard for me. Another helpful tip is to start your homework the moment you get home, cause the earlier you start, the more time you would have to relax. Also, try to take 5 minute breaks every hour when doing school work. It helps a lot, like going outside for a while or eating a snack is a really good refresh. School's pretty tough today and teachers cram us with homework.
Also if you still dont get the math, you may want to ask your tutor to teach it better, cause it doesnt hurt to ask. Or find a way to learn it.
Good luck! Remember, you're not the only one going through this! =))
Im a teen thats why i feel mad lazy to read your novel.
But dont worry we all feel stress, depress, and a random of emotions that not even we can explain
What really scares me is that I was in the bathroom a few minutes (15?) later and looked in the mirror and started shaking and was on the verge of tears (I actually did cry while locked in my room) thinking I won't be able to change.
I'm being pressured to do so many things right now and so much is expected from me that I don't know and actually think it's going to lead to be breaking down! (Not just doing good at math. I also have to study packets for SSATs, have an interview on Monday, project due that day, I currently have friend issues, and more...)
Please, have any of you experienced anything at all like this? How did you help solve it? I don't want to end up too pressured from this or have this lead to too much.Teens/Adolescent help? How to deal with the stress?? (is this normal for stress?)?
Okay.............YOU'RE pressurizing yourself. Nobody can make you feel pressure but you!!! So..............let it go!!! Go outside and scream, run around the block, yell into a pillow, write some stuff into a journal, do some exercises, dance, attend a concert.
You have to let some pressure off or you're going get high blood pressure, health problems happening, headaches, etc.
Your whole life is going to have stressors in it. Everything you do from getting a job, to having a child, to paying bills, to attending universities, to having a boyfriend/husband, having mechanical problems in the house (furnace, stove, washing machine). Start learning to manage the stress now. The most important thing is to exersize. That helps release the endorphins in the body which create many health issues inside of you.
Remember, YOU are the only one creating stress. There really isn't such thing as stress actually. It's just something you think you should have...worry!!! You don't need to worry. you try your best, you work hard, it will all work out for you.
Good luckTeens/Adolescent help? How to deal with the stress?? (is this normal for stress?)?
I am going through what you are going through right now. Except my SATs are next year, but I have club meetings, babysitting, and a gazillion pounds of homework to do. Especially AP World History, cause that class is soo frikking hard and my mom wants me to get at least a B in that class which I do right now, but it's close to a C and it's driving me insane. Sometimes, it feels like the day isn't even enough.
What to do? Well that's what I am trying to figure out too. I try to keep distractions away like Facebook or MySpace but sometimes that's hard for me. Another helpful tip is to start your homework the moment you get home, cause the earlier you start, the more time you would have to relax. Also, try to take 5 minute breaks every hour when doing school work. It helps a lot, like going outside for a while or eating a snack is a really good refresh. School's pretty tough today and teachers cram us with homework.
Also if you still dont get the math, you may want to ask your tutor to teach it better, cause it doesnt hurt to ask. Or find a way to learn it.
Good luck! Remember, you're not the only one going through this! =))
Im a teen thats why i feel mad lazy to read your novel.
But dont worry we all feel stress, depress, and a random of emotions that not even we can explain
Teachers: How can I earn a second chance?
I've been stressing out about my grades in an AP class. I've been getting B's on most of my tests and quizzes for half a marking period. However, I must get an A. My parents require me to do so and would surely kill me if I do not. I got an A the first marking period, but for the second (which is not), I did not do as well.
The sad thing is I've been stressing about this everyday of my break (including New Year's). I realize that partly it's my fault, because I've been cramming. But my resolve is to change and truly work hard on everything. I promise for sure.
But the problem is... I only have one more month (half a marking period) to change my grades. Even if I do work hard and get a perfect score on everything, I won't make it to a solid A.
Is there anything I can do or talk about to my teacher to give more opportunities (or tests)?
I realize there are not many assignments left, but I need more to get the A. There are no extra credit assignments. This is an AP course.
Teachers: If I do show that I care and if she truly realizes I have worked harder, will she give me a chance by offering more assignments or even extra credit?
*I realize it is my job to work and I'm willing to do so. All I'm asking here is more opportunities and a chance. I am NOT trying to bribe the teacher or do anything wrong.
Please... I'm miserable now and desperately need it ;(Teachers: How can I earn a second chance?
Speaking as a teacher, I've heard too many times ';I'm going to change'; to believe it anymore. It would be one thing if I actually did see the change, and I have been known to make deals with students if I really see change. However, the life lesson here is that all actions have consequences. If you really, really wanted that A you would have worked for it since the beginning of the year. You have to realize what you're asking your teacher to do. You're saying that you should have worked harder, but you didn't, so now you want your teacher to work harder because of that. How is this fair to your teacher? It can't hurt to ask, and since you're actually passing the course that's in your favor as well, just keep these things in mind.Teachers: How can I earn a second chance?
Honestly, I doubt there will be anything a teacher will do to help you with your grades if you weren't doing the work as well as you should have the first part of the semester. Part of school is teaching the students that there are consequences for their actions (or in your case, inactions).
But this is something you need to bring up with your parents. Bs aren't the end of the world. I mean, a C is average. Just tell them the truth but that you're determined to work harder next quarter. They might actually let you off a little easier because you were honest with them.
The short, easy and most reliable answer I can give you is to simply ask your teacher, ';what must I do academically in order to get an ';A'; in your class?';
If there is any way possible, and you are sincere, then your teacher can and will tell you. If however, you have been more of a disruption to the class than a learner, or if you are a minimalist doing just enough to get by, then all bets are off. Your teacher is unlikely to extend themselves on your behalf...since you didn't.
As a teacher I know that sometimes we have a little flexibility in our assessment of a student's work...and sometime we don't. As a semester progresses it becomes easier to recognize a student who is giving 100% and doing their best from the student who is not. One strong indicator is how well the student is doing in their other classes. It's been my experience that by and large, the student who is doing A/B work in your class is doing A/B work in their other classes as well.
Good luck and I hope that helps
The fact that you realize your fault in the matter, and have admitted that your grade is not what it should be due to the fact that you have thus far not done a truly AP-level job with your studies, would tell me, as a teacher, that you have learned a lesson. Maybe I would be willing to add some assignments to my course syllabus so that you personally, and maybe other students in the same boat, would have a chance to raise your grade.
But, on the other hand, your lesson will be learned better if you suffer the consequences. All is not lost with a B grade. Next semester you will show your teachers you want the A, because you don't want the alternative consequences ever again. This will make you a stronger, more driven learner. (The essence of a professionally done job.)
The sad thing is I've been stressing about this everyday of my break (including New Year's). I realize that partly it's my fault, because I've been cramming. But my resolve is to change and truly work hard on everything. I promise for sure.
But the problem is... I only have one more month (half a marking period) to change my grades. Even if I do work hard and get a perfect score on everything, I won't make it to a solid A.
Is there anything I can do or talk about to my teacher to give more opportunities (or tests)?
I realize there are not many assignments left, but I need more to get the A. There are no extra credit assignments. This is an AP course.
Teachers: If I do show that I care and if she truly realizes I have worked harder, will she give me a chance by offering more assignments or even extra credit?
*I realize it is my job to work and I'm willing to do so. All I'm asking here is more opportunities and a chance. I am NOT trying to bribe the teacher or do anything wrong.
Please... I'm miserable now and desperately need it ;(Teachers: How can I earn a second chance?
Speaking as a teacher, I've heard too many times ';I'm going to change'; to believe it anymore. It would be one thing if I actually did see the change, and I have been known to make deals with students if I really see change. However, the life lesson here is that all actions have consequences. If you really, really wanted that A you would have worked for it since the beginning of the year. You have to realize what you're asking your teacher to do. You're saying that you should have worked harder, but you didn't, so now you want your teacher to work harder because of that. How is this fair to your teacher? It can't hurt to ask, and since you're actually passing the course that's in your favor as well, just keep these things in mind.Teachers: How can I earn a second chance?
Honestly, I doubt there will be anything a teacher will do to help you with your grades if you weren't doing the work as well as you should have the first part of the semester. Part of school is teaching the students that there are consequences for their actions (or in your case, inactions).
But this is something you need to bring up with your parents. Bs aren't the end of the world. I mean, a C is average. Just tell them the truth but that you're determined to work harder next quarter. They might actually let you off a little easier because you were honest with them.
The short, easy and most reliable answer I can give you is to simply ask your teacher, ';what must I do academically in order to get an ';A'; in your class?';
If there is any way possible, and you are sincere, then your teacher can and will tell you. If however, you have been more of a disruption to the class than a learner, or if you are a minimalist doing just enough to get by, then all bets are off. Your teacher is unlikely to extend themselves on your behalf...since you didn't.
As a teacher I know that sometimes we have a little flexibility in our assessment of a student's work...and sometime we don't. As a semester progresses it becomes easier to recognize a student who is giving 100% and doing their best from the student who is not. One strong indicator is how well the student is doing in their other classes. It's been my experience that by and large, the student who is doing A/B work in your class is doing A/B work in their other classes as well.
Good luck and I hope that helps
The fact that you realize your fault in the matter, and have admitted that your grade is not what it should be due to the fact that you have thus far not done a truly AP-level job with your studies, would tell me, as a teacher, that you have learned a lesson. Maybe I would be willing to add some assignments to my course syllabus so that you personally, and maybe other students in the same boat, would have a chance to raise your grade.
But, on the other hand, your lesson will be learned better if you suffer the consequences. All is not lost with a B grade. Next semester you will show your teachers you want the A, because you don't want the alternative consequences ever again. This will make you a stronger, more driven learner. (The essence of a professionally done job.)
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