Saturday, November 20, 2010

What are the effects of a parent's death on fourteen-year-olds?

Hi. I am writing a paper on the effects of parental death, by any means, on a fourteen-year-old. I am looking for individuals around this age who have experienced the death of a parent. How did things change in your life afterwards? Slip in grades? Change in social life (isolation)? Depression? Closer attachment or less attachment to surviving parent? Etc. Looking to get more ideas for my paper. Thanks for the help.What are the effects of a parent's death on fourteen-year-olds?
My mother died when I was nine, but I'm fourteen now. I coped very well, it didn't actually have much effect on me at all, probably because she had been mentally ill for three years before and had been in hospital all this time. She committed suicide. My dad remarried a Belgian woman, and we moved from New Zealand to Belgium. You could certainly say that this has effected my life, as a result of the death of my mother.

I do not miss having a mother. People are always telling me how hard it must be for me, but I don't find it hard at all. I am very happy the way my family is - dad, sister and me. The only things I really miss are my mum's cooking, and having mother around to kind of calm my dad down when he's in a bad mood. The death of my mother was a lot harder on my sister and father than on myself.What are the effects of a parent's death on fourteen-year-olds?
You mentioned several possibilities. Anger and guilt are two prevalent emotions in such circumstances. Sometimes anger at the deceased or surviving parent, or directed to a sibling, or a physician caring for the deceased parent. Guilt for not being a better child. Alcohol and drug addiction to numb the pain. Denial of need for help.



When my super-intelligent cousin died, his son, a C student and troublemaker, became a well-behaved B student fulfilling a promise to his dying father.



You might stress the importance of bereavement counseling. Teens often hide their feelings, to their detriment. You might also stress that feelings are not always rational.

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