IM lost, confused, and feel like i should give up on life... help?

hey, im in highschool, things use to be great. striaght A's. hangout with bestfriends all the time. always smiling and laughing. now things seem to change. my grades are getting lower. my best friend doesnt hang out with me as much. im always sad. parents are always putting me down. telling me im a failure. things took a turn when the started putting me down. they started punishing me(hitting) and everytime they yell at me i cry easly. the only thing that makes me happy is my boyfriend, who they do not approve. but how can they not approve him without getting to know him. some times i feel like giving in to their words and give up on myself but my boyfriend said not to. some times i think without him life isnt worth it. i know i shouldnt give up, but it hurts when my parents stop believing in me. what should i do? they wont even listen to me. i just dont get it anymore..IM lost, confused, and feel like i should give up on life... help?
First of all you have to try to stop letting what others say get to you like this. I know that it's hard not to take into account what your parents say about you, but you have to learn to be your own person and not let them get to you.



Your boyfriend is right in saying you shouldn't give up. It's good that he makes you happy but what you need to do is find your own happiness because while he may be there for you now that does not mean he will always be there. Be careful with how much you depend on others because they might let you down.



It's clear you have the ability. You said you used to get straight A's %26amp; everything else in your life was fine. You need to find out what it was that caused this dramatic change and try to get back your self confidence. You cannot let others drag you down. Your parents are probably critical of you because they care... although the hitting is inexcusable. (If it's heavy hitting i suggest you talk to someone about it.)



I think you need to analyze your life, and see what has changed to cause this dramatic turn around. Once you find what it is you can determine what needs to be changed to make you happy again.



Best of luck to you!IM lost, confused, and feel like i should give up on life... help?
Jesus will never leave or forsake you.....He will always listen to you. If you listen to him, He will make you happy and give you all your heart desires.
If your parents are hitting you , you need to tell someone (family, teacher) immediately!
listen honey. One you get out of high school its a whole different ballgame. They cant control you once you're in college or start working. Just move the hell out, screw them and show them what a great person you really are. Hang in there :)

and stay with your boyfriend
my girlfriend has an interesting motto you may want to research and think about...from the Latin: ' nil carborundum illegitimi ' which means when translated...DON'T LET THE BASTARDS GRIND YOU DOWN ! I am in no way referring to your parents, but to life in general...stay safe
Don't give up. Your parents shouldn't call you a failure. Try the best you can in school. Give it your all. Do what makes you happy. Not your parents. It is your life not theirs. It will all be o.k. Try your hardest at everything you do. You will do great. Good luck!
You sound like you need therapy. Lots of it. And you are probably not telling the whole story. You were probably being punished for a reason. And i think some kids deserve to be hit. They way they act sometimes. I know I did at times. Lol.
The number one thing to realize is that your feelings change...and soon.



When i was in highschool i sometimes though about suicide. Just 2 years later i was having the time of my life as a freshman in college, and i was on top of the world.



Don't listen to your parents, believe in yourself. YOU CAN DO IT.



Start excercising. Concentrate on your schoolwork. If you like your boyfriend, stick with him for now.



Just don't do anything that affects your life forever...things change so fast, and you have so much life left to live ahead of you.
i was once in your shoes and it is very hard to deal with it and i would not give up i would look at the bright side of it all like the fact that you have a good boyfriend and somone who loves you..... why dont your parents approve of this guy that might be somthing you might want to find out before going any further with them
wow! calm down just take a deap breath and relax just put more time into your school work. spend less time with your friends and boyfriend you need to did your grade up or else your screwed. not trying to be mean but friend's and relation ships can get you drestracted thats probly why your parents are mad at u.
Dont live life for anyone but yourself. Giving up on life is easy, but pusing though takes inner strength. Be thankful for your boyfriend, but dont let him be your only motivation. You need to depend on yourself. You obviously were doing good in life, so its possible to be there again. Believe in yourself when no one else will. I will tell you right now I believe in you. I dont know you but I know you can keep on going, and not give up. Life is never easy, but thats what makes it life. If youre in high school, you dont have much longer to go before you can be on your own. Get those good grades back so you can go away to college. Become a better person despite your parents. You can do it, put your heart into it.
Your boyfriend is right. What you need to do is turn this thing into a positive.The more they down you, the harder you work to prove them wrong.Then when your old enough to go out on your own, you can say you did it all on your own and be proud of what you have accomplished.Everyone has a purpose and a reason for being here so you cant give up.You have to keep pushing even harder when things are at their worst.Then when all is said and done, you will have a prosperous life and might even be able to help someone else in your situation.Good luck, keep your chin up.
It is very sad that your parents are telling you that you are a failure. You must not believe this!!!

Being a teenager is tough. You are experiencing things that a lot of teenagers before you have felt, and a lot after you will feel. Don't give up hope.

Throw out your darker colored clothing, and your gloomy, sad songs. Put on bright colors, and DANCE in your bedroom. Find a hobby that you can get involved in. Do NOT make the boyfriend your whole world. Boyfriends will come and go, believe it or not. Life is just starting for you. YOU have to believe in YOURSELF before anyone else will. So, get up early one day, help Mom in the kitchen, put a little bit of make-up on, and SMILE all day. Do something kind for someone else, and I guarenttee that YOU will feel better. Just try it. Don't find an excuse not to do it. Just try it ONE DAY, and see if I am right or not.
Honey, I have been there. I know it is very hard when your parents don't believe in you. I don't have enough information to say keep the boyfriend or get rid of him. There has to be more of a reason they don't like him. Just hang in there and try to find things that make you happy. Try to find the positive in everything. I know and understand that it is very, very hard. But as we get older we see things differently. But the number one thing is never put or rely on one person or just one thing to make or bring you happiness unless it is God, or a Higher Power. If it is just a human, there is a tendency that they will let you down. So find some new friends, find something that you enjoy doing, and really look for the positive things that bring you joy and pleasure.

Good Luck, and God Bless
Sweetie,



PLEASE talk to your school counselor, a friend, a friend's parent..........someone in authority. You are severely depressed, and from your statement above, it sounds like you are getting a little too close to the 'edge'. You MUST talk to someone outside of your home ASAP.



Get this off your chest, sweetie. It will relieve some of the tension you are feeling, and maybe things won't seem as bleak. Remember..........there is ALWAYS someone out there who will listen. You made a good start asking here, but I think you would be better off talking in person to someone. For one thing, you would know that you aren't being blown off (you can see if they are paying attention), and you also would be able to interact (meaning get their opinion's on it and then talk it over).
It is dangerous to place your worth in another person. You are special because you are you. Not because your parents approve of you, and not because a boyfriend supports you. One day they may all be gone, and you will have to know how to stand alone if that day arrives.



Find a job you enjoy and work on making a successful career so that you depend on no parents or man. THEN, you can call the shots much easier.



Enjoy your youth. Until you have children, it is the best part of your life in retrospect. Don't get into trouble or drugs mind you, but DO have a little FUN!



Your parents judge your boyfriend because they think they know his type. People will do that, ain't no stopping them.
!) never give up , your young and healthy things will get better 2) talk to your parents from the heart . nobody loves you more they are worried about you. 3) you are to young to be a failure forget that!! 4) don';t do anything impuslive you may be depressed and reguire conseling and medications. 5) i'm here if you need to talk cheer up!!!
i'm sorry to hear you're having such troubles in life right now.



your boyfriend is right -- please don't give up on yourself... ok?



you might be suffering from depression... depression can be caused for any number of reasons, and one is chemical imbalance... it's very common!



can you talk with your school counselor? perhaps if you two get together and talk about your FEELINGS, the counselor can meet with your parents.. you said your parents don't listen to you, and that you can't talk with them. perhaps a third person would be helpful to you.



if not a counselor, do you have an aunt or uncle who you trust and respect? or another adult who knows you and your family?



You might also try talking with your parents again first... ask them if they would please listen to you, and start out telling them you feel sad and you don't know why... tell them that your sadness has affected your life, your grades and you just want to feel better. Perhaps they will listen to that?



It's not your fault! You sound as if you want things to get better, you are just unsure HOW to get some help and support.



i hope you get good help and good advice from the people here, too!



sending hugz your way!
I beleive that you are going through a time in your life, where you need acceptance and you need their approval still. but you know what?

You don't need their acceptance, and you don't need their approval to be successful

Do you know what you need the most of right now?

To beleive in yourself.

only you can make it or break it.

only you can decide if your going to let them bring you down.

and only you can decide to let it hurt.

and only you can change your future.

One day, your not going to be living under thier roof. you will be under your own roof and rules.

Do what makes you happy, Do what makes you feel good about yourself.

cuz you do matter, but you have to matter to yourself.

You can try all your life to please your parents, but until you start living life for you. you will never be happy.

I learned all my life to do things for my parents to make them happy with me,

I made choices that I thought would make them happy.

I even chose to go into a career that I didnt want to be in, to satisfy my dad.

and I gave up my own dream.

and you know.. I never did make him happy, I never made it through the carerr he wanted me in, I never was able to be appreciated enough by anyone in my family.

It took me a long time to figure out that I had to live my life for me, not them. I had to make the choices that were best for me, regardless if they did or didn't approve.

I wish I would of learned that along time ago,

like when I was younger like you are now.

All you can do, is try to make the right choices, do the right things. and build your own rules in your life and what you want out of it.



Try setting some goals that are for you. something that you have to work for, but not to hard, and make it something worth while. something to make a difference in your life for you. not them.

once you start thinking things in this way. you will automatically gain approval and acceptance.

its all a part of growing up..

you are fine, you will do great, and your boyfriend does care about you.. be thankful for the little things in life, and only you can make it work. or not.. We all have Free Will.
DON'T EVER GIVE UP

Not all people are meant to be parents, and some get to a situation that they do not know how to deal with it. YOU need to be able to get above them and survive. I have been through similar situations, so if you want to email me, please do.



You have many things going on in your life right now on top of being a teenager with all that brings. You sound so on the edge, PLEASE stay on this side!



Here is a toll-fee number to Covenant House Hotline: 800-999-9999.



This is a crisis line for youth, teens, and families. It gives you a local referral throughout the United States.



Good Luck - my prayers are with you!
First of all, you need to prove to yourself that your are worth something before you need to prove it to someone else. Why have your grades slipped? Is it because of the boyfriend?Parents always have a reason why they do not approve of a boy. Hell for me, my entire family did not approve of my ex-boyfriend (childs father), I did not know why until now. They had a VERY good reason. It is a sense they have and one day when you become a parent you will have it too. Maybe you best friend is distancing from you because you are not being the best friend you used to be. Have you ever thought about that? Dont give up on life. This right here should be your drive to do something better. e-mail me if you want to talk. I have a little experience with what you are going through. Now I have a beautiful daughter, I am a single but very strong mother, that is doing wonderful with my life. let me know if you want to chat.
Find a counsellor as soon as you can, they will help you clear your head so you can cope with things untill you can move out.

Focus on your future and work hard at school. This will pass and you will be happy again, just don't give up and try to stay positive.